Bachelor Parties

By now I’m sure I’ve mentioned that I’m in my college roomate’s wedding at the end of July. As such, I’m naturally going to be at his bachelor party, which happens to be this weekend. The plan is to head to Atlantic City for the night: dinner, gambling, drinking, drunken walk back to hotel. It’s the first time all of my Villanova friends have gotten together for a big drink-fest since college, so we’re all extremely psyched for the weekend.

During all the planning and discussing, I got to wondering exactly why we were doing all this. Sure, I’m excited to see everyone, but at the end of the day I’m left wondering what the purpose of a bachelor party really is. I’ve heard some people joke (I hope they are joking at least) that it’s the bachelor’s “last night of freedom”, which is a total crap answer since it’s not like the guy will be acting like he’s single; he’s simply out without his bride-to-be. Like I said, this is the first time since college that we’ve all gotten a chance to go out together, but realistically we didn’t need one of us to get married, we just needed a break from work/grad school long enough to get together.

So this brings me back to my original question on the purpose of bachelor parties. For now I’ll save comments on the bride’s extracurricular activities; I can’t tell you the difference between a bachelorette party and a wedding shower, all I know is that the bride ends up with an ass load of gifts and the bridesmaids end up flat broke. If anyone has a better idea of what the bachelor party is supposed to accomplish, I’d be much appreciative for the guidance.


  1. Well Jay, I have to say, I’m glad you all had a good time. Although, I don’t really know the reason for bachelor parties either. It’s probably to purposefully make the time for everyone to get together and have a night of drunken stupidness without having to have their significant others with them. But, I’d much rather my drunken significant other be with me :)

    Once again, glad you all had a great time!

  2. I went to a shower of someone you know and in reciving her gifts said ” Oh my china pattern” – what happened to the guy ?
    I would like to know why the girl only has the party with gifts, since the gifts are for both of you.
    I think if that is the case then let Lucas plan a party where u get gifts too.

  3. I always thought the bridal shower was just chick gifts too, until my neighbor came home with a new BBQ grill from hers (I think it was part of the bridal shower).

    Regardless, it’s amazing how much people have to spend on someone else’s wedding. We had an engagement party, then there’s the bachelor/bachelorette parties, bridal shower, and the wedding itself. I feel bad getting married, as if in the process I’m going to bankrupt half of my friends.

  4. Having just to been to a bachelor party myself.. I have to agree that I have no idea what its purpose is. I knew everyone there… so i can’t say they’re a good icebreaker for the future wedding. I mean, on one hand… it’s way for your buddies to all interact togetherand bond.. but that can be done at any time…I guess it’s a way to be stupid and revert back to your college immature days w/out having your fiancee get mad at you for looking stupid. I dunno.. i could be wrong. i guess we may never know. till then though, party on!

  5. I love the idea of a Jack and Jill party! I guess the traditional shower goes back to the times when the girl did all the cooking etc. Heck, Jay cooks as much as I do and was very excited when we got new pots and pans!

  6. Jay excited about pots and pans? I’d question his manhood, except for the fact that when I got my own place I, too, thought it was sorta fun to get that sorta stuff. No shame…

    And as far as a Jack and Jill party, what’s the difference between that and the rehearsal dinner? Am I missing something?

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